A Gentle Mother’s Day: Honoring Every Emotion & Journey

Mother’s Day is often celebrated with cards, flowers, and cheerful brunches—a day dedicated to honoring mothers and all they do. But behind the bright posts and happy pictures, many are carrying emotions that aren’t always visible. For some, it’s a day of warmth and connection. For others, it’s a painful reminder of what’s missing, what’s lost, or what never was.

At Solicitude Parenting, we understand that Mother’s Day isn’t the same for everyone. And that’s okay.

Not All Motherhood Looks the Same

Some women are grieving the loss of their own mothers. Others are carrying the pain of infertility, miscarriage, or child loss. There are mothers raising children with special needs, silently navigating exhaustion and burnout. Some are mothering without recognition—grandmothers, foster moms, stepmoms, teachers, and caregivers who give their all without a “thank you.” Others are estranged from their children or families, quietly holding their heartbreak.

To all of you: You are not alone. Your version of motherhood, your journey, your feelings—they matter.

If Today Feels Heavy…

If you find yourself overwhelmed, sad, or numb today, know that your experience is valid. There is no “right” way to feel on Mother’s Day. Here are a few ways to care for yourself gently:

1. Set Boundaries

It’s okay to avoid social media today. You don’t have to scroll through celebrations that make you feel left out. Protect your emotional space.

2. Create Your Own Ritual

Light a candle for someone you miss. Write a letter to your younger self, your child, or your future dreams. Go for a walk, listen to music, or simply sit in stillness. use eseential oils for mental health

3. Allow Yourself to Rest

You don’t have to be productive or cheerful today. If all you can do is breathe, that’s enough. Rest is healing, not indulgent.

4. Reach Out

Whether to a friend, therapist, or support group, connection can ease the weight. Sometimes, just being heard makes all the difference.

5. Speak Your Truth

If you feel up to it, share your story with someone you trust. Naming your feelings can be incredibly freeing and a first step toward healing.

Let’s Be Real, Not Perfect

Social media often paints a picture of perfection. But behind every photo is a story, and many stories include struggle. Let’s choose compassion over comparison. Let’s honor every path of motherhood—whether joyful, painful, ongoing, or uncertain.

If you’re celebrating today, may it be full of love and light. If you’re grieving or struggling, may you feel held and supported. If you’re somewhere in between, may you know that your emotions are welcome and seen.

In Closing

Mother’s Day can bring a mix of beauty and pain. Let’s hold space for it all. Share this post if it resonates. Let someone know they’re not alone. Let’s honor all the quiet, courageous, and complicated forms of motherhood today.

You are seen. You are valued. You are loved.